This pertains to those people who went to Mike Domirtz's "Can I Kiss You" speech Tuesday in Cardinal Hall.Yes, it was an entertaining speech. He was funny, charming and classy. However, he was wrong.At one point in the speech Domritz asked, "What could be problematic about asking?" He was referring to asking for the kiss instead of just going for it. I was the guy who said, "It wouldn't be a surprise and it would be less spontaneous."He pretty much shut me down by saying that I was wrong and that it would still be spontaneous if the person asked. Please note that he didn't give any examples or prove his point - he just shut me down and made me look bad.I wanted to debate with him so bad, but I decided to keep quite so I wouldn't be rude. I partially regret it now.It is less spontaneous. It is less of a surprise. It is less romantic.Sure, it is a nice thought to have a sweet guy that respects you and asks you for the kiss. It's not something that girls fantasize about, though. Something that girls do fantasize about: "The Notebook." Girls loved that hot, rainy kiss by the lake. It is romance defined. It may not be what 100 percent of all girls want, but I feel comfortable around the 95 percent area.I wanted to see if my thoughts were true, so I asked three girl students on campus some questions about the scene and asking for a kiss in general. I made sure to get girls that didn't go to the speech so they would not be affected or persuaded by it.I asked freshman Julie Nelson if it would have still been as sweet and romantic if Noah had asked for the kiss in the rain.Her response was "If he would have asked, it would have been less romantic and passionate," and "spontaneous is better."I asked freshman Amanda Medich what she thought about not asking before kissing. "It's more fun and spontaneous," Medich said, I asked freshman Lindsey McElroy if she would want a guy to ask. "No, it's lame," she said.Another point: Domirtz said that if you don't ask her for the kiss in the first place, the rest of the relationship is a guessing game. He persuaded everyone that guessing was bad and that clear and easy was good. I disagree here too.I remember being in a relationship that drove me crazy. It was practically an off-the-wall roller coaster. I was nervous and confused and I had no idea what was going to happen next. I remember even having trouble sleeping some nights - but isn't that the fun of dating? Being a mess? It's a one-of-a-kind thrill. It's exciting to talk about your new special someone to all of your friends and to see what their opinion is. It's fun to daze out during a test because you were trying to figure out the thought pattern of that same special someone. It's crazy. It's romantic. That "guessing game" is the dating game.In the end, I was right. Girls think it is not as spontaneous, romantic and special if the guy asks before he kisses. It's more fun to dive into things head first not knowing where you're going to land.I do want to point out that Domirtz had some good points concerning sexual boundaries and respect, but I think his speech was slanted and unfair.How many movies do you hear the guy ask before that kiss? Few, if any at all. It's not what most girls are passionate for, although it can be nice.Well, Mike Domirtz, this was my way of stickin' it to ya for making me look bad.
Mark Allen Hunt is a sophmore journalism major and writes 'Comin' at Ya' for the Daily News. His views do not necessarily agree with those of the newspaper.
Write to Mark at mahunt@bsu.edu.
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