From an early age, men are taught views on sex and women’s bodies that are harmful and misguided, the president of Men Stopping Rape-Madison said.
Joe Weinberg, an author, presenter and educator, gave two presentations to students Tuesday and Wednesday evening—the first night was only for women and the second night was only for men.
Weinberg focused on “What’s inside the mind of a man?” in his lecture to the women.
“We’ve lied to boys for many generations,” Weinberg said. “From an early age, we’re told sex is something females have that we have to get.”
He said his goal is reshaping masculinity and improving the development of the male mind. He said he wants men to achieve a higher education about sexual intercourse, which teaches them to be more respectful of women.
Weinberg has worked with all age groups from fourth grade boys to college men. He said males have a tendency to constantly reassure themselves about their bodies, hinting that men are typically insecure—especially when it concerns sex.
He said males view pornography as real, which gives them a skewed perception of a woman’s body.
“Nudity is not the problem,” he said. “It’s one of my favorite inventions. The problem is that most pornography bears no resemblance to making love. Males use pornography as a way of making the homosexual interaction of masturbation heterosexual. Porn is at best a cartoon and at worst a grotesque image of sex.”
Weinberg said that pornography is not a good teacher concerning sexual relationships.
“Porn never taught me to be a lover,” he said.
He said an increased level of sexual education can change the way sex is viewed by men.
Weinberg said that parents are not involved enough in talking with their sons about intercourse.
Because men are not well-educated on sex, they have several unanswered questions, and they will go anywhere to get the questions figured out, whether those answers are factual or not.
“If just one father sat down and really talked about sexual intercourse with their son, it would be revolutionary,” he said.
Weinberg said he has discovered teenage males usually care more about sex than other matters they should be concerned about.
Sex education has been taught in schools for several years; however, he said sex education is at its worst nowadays. He said schools are forced to act as parents when teaching students about sex. The teachers are not just educators, but they serve as moral guides about sex.
The lack of one-on-one education becomes apparent when everything about sex is taught in a school setting. Parents need to be more open with both their sons and daughters instead of trusting such an important aspect of life like sex to be taught in schools, Weinberg said.
Ball State freshman Zak Coffman said he got a lot out of the speech.
“He has a lot of viewpoints that you don’t hear from men in our society,” he said. “Especially the part about talking with your partner before making any steps toward a physical relationship.”
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